Everyone talks about work-life balance. There is NO steady state of balance. Your seesaw of life is never going to be perfectly balanced in the middle. We HAVE TO CHANGE THIS NOTION. No wonder women can't "do it all". We are expecting the IMPOSSIBLE. Instead, let’s start thinking of our energy reserves like a bank account! What fills your tank and what drains it? What activities are making energy deposits and what activities are withdrawing your energy? Maybe a perfect balanc

Like most of the alpha-female, driven, women in medicine, I strive for perfection. From straight A’s in grade school to superb MCAT and STEP scores to being elected chief resident, I was determined to settle for nothing less than excellence. Despite my achievements in my medical education, I reached my residency graduation to find myself on an unexpected path. My marriage – destined to last forever – had crumbled during my training. I was baby-less. I was partner-less. I wa